Emo the Emotional Elf

#selfcare #carers

Morning 😀♥️

Hi everyone how you been, got lots to share later , been super busy here trying to get back to routines of schools and appointments. And get some much needed rest in.

Today’s the day for my well woman check up and important health checks, it’s so important to get these check ups, preventative and a chance to catch things early can have a huge impact on your life, I am going to be honest I don’t perticualy enjoy the experience it is very dignified no matter how it’s done. It’s awkward and super uncomfortable.

And the wait for results after is nerve wracking, still today it will be over and done with.

I missed the last appointment just because I got my days mixed up should of had it done over six weeks ago would be getting the results by now.

I guess it’s probably be on mind am awful lot lately, us carers we are excellent about doing it for other people, but turning it round on yourself and taking action for your own health sometimes can be a bit difficult, just fitting it in around caring for others.

It doesn’t really matter if your a female carer or male carer make time , it’s really important.

Anyway just getting that out of my head so I can focus on work.

Have a beautiful day today😁♥️

Proper blog coming later today

Emo The Emotional Elf

#schoolreturnday #emotions

Presentable for school run 🤣♥️

Good morning , how are you all there was me thinking about being late and not hearing alarm today. How wrong was I we were up an hour before the alarm, not through my choice thought I would at least sleep till 7am.

Their was a whole heap of crashing and banging as both kids were awake Niki was helping her brother with his hair , they woke their dad up too 😁you know my kids are way to loud this morning. Send ear defenders quick🤣 not for them for me my brain is fried🤣

Jake is super ready and asking a hundred questions. Oh I see need five minutes for my morning coffee. Those new school shoes I got Jake yep they not going to work he gone back to his old trusty ones he had last year which he has more than worn in. I wanted him to practise wearing his new shoes I’m the run up to this week but they stayed lined up ready to go this morning. That’s the reality pick your battles. He will wear them adventualy.

You know I always make sure my kids have fresh new uniforms and pencil cases and equipment for new terms. And shoes I want them to look smart and clean. I give it a week and then it will begin tuck your shirt in brush your hair, clean your teeth. First day back so that always is better day.

Now to see if the traffic is the same as before hit them traffic lights at curtain time and they are all green. Hit them at the wrong time and you end up stopping at everyone. The roads this last week have been a lot busy . The car parks are full every where again.

Omg Jake just asked what time school starts again, I told him 8.30 am, sitting here smiling he though it started at 7am. Now he has to sit and twiddle his thumbs till it’s time to leave. I have to pop up the road and get my car as that’s where I had to park yesterday no parking in my road was available. Fingers crossed no issues with my car this morning.

I know Jake’s got this , mum is hiding her anxiety about this first goodbye well apart from Jake’s pacing back and forth please coffee before pacing, I know he can’t help it but my he is making my head swirl with it this morning, I am smiling fondly though, and happy it isn’t the flappy jump just yet. We had that last night. He was doing this jumping on the spot repeatedly I just joined in, it only lasted a couple of minutes.

That’s the difference with blogging now I actually have something to blog about it’s flowing easily this morning. Just. This second first wake up phonecall from dad. He was very surprised I am awake 😁 infact he is surprised we all awake . I don’t think Niki slept at all last night she gone back to bed now.

It’s very calming to just sit and write sometimes especially this morning and last night. As I write my head is less in fuzzy dream land and becoming more alert it is that the coffee suddenly kicking in.oh and right now all I can hear is silence just going to enjoy this for hour ever long it last just the rythmic tic of the clock and birds and distant sound of the traffic passing streets away. The rumble of my tummy kicking in. I think for once I may just have breakfast myself this morning. Anything to settle this anxious feeling in the out of my tummy.

Anyway have a beautiful day I am going to go and finnish my coffee and grab some food.

It’s Just day one what could possible go wrong.

IT’S GOING TO BE AMAZING, POSITIVE MINDSET, 😁♥️♥️

The one pic they would let me share this morning.

Much love Faye xxxx

Emo The Emotional Elf

#emotions #caring #family #autism #mentalhealth #anxiety #family #friendships #elves

Elves and Emotions are making a comeback here, maybe more for work benifits and my own now kids are older.I find them kind of comforting especially when adding schools back into routine

This is the thoughts of a mother kind of blog, you know let out the anxiety of return to school runs and different work sceduals.

As tough as I look and seem sometimes always with a smile , laughing some of them old anxious feelings still appear especially when Thier is downtime , I been running on double speed since Covid started and haven’t stopped all the way through it till this weekend an active mind stops you thinking about what comes next. I am all ready uniforms school bags serialised maps of new school layout , printed off time tables. Lunch made and in the fridge.

I mean it’s been months since school we had maybe three 2 hours in school before the end of term but that was just one year group at a time.

I am sure teachers maybe feeling the same anxiety parents are I hope this moto in it together still stands. Because reality is we should all be on the same page to make this as plains sailing as possible , I hope teachers are able to hold that anxiety back when dealing with the children because they are definatley going to have to deal with possibly a lot of emotions they didn’t have to deal with before. You see it in tweets and other online posts that they are too happy about schools returning yet.

But sooner rather then later us adults have to push past our own anxieties so the kids don’t feel it and become more anxious. I can say this because I live with kids who have anxiety disorders and can be affected by even the smallest of changes. It’s why I have danced and sung and laughed all through lockdown. But really my heart beats faster at the thought of what will be in the morning or this very first week back. Infact feeling just a little queezy tonight. I am sure it will pass like it always does when things get busy again. I write because it’s away to just settle my thoughts take a deep breath and talk to myself rather then people because it’s only myself that has control of me.

We had a lovely weekend , all working and doing our bit for preperations so we don’t have that morning back panic, I got my dad and oldest son to give me a morning call tomorrow just incase I hit that alarm button or throw the alarm clock when it goes off at 7am.

I only have one kid going back tomorrow and that’s my Jake , he has been very anxious about it, the last few days. Lots of what if questions., And despite my optimistic replays that It will all be fine I don’t know when his anxiety will come out any more than I do mine .

If you ever had anxiety before it’s hard to explain it’s just thier with you, waiting for the right circumstances to strike. We have many techniques in place at school but I am depending on them to make sure that support is ready to go should he need it.

Niki returns to college on Friday , we spent some mum and daughter time on Saturday getting the right outfit they she will feel comfortable in. Again she is anxious about making new friends, she knows her teachers and they know her well too so they know what works if her anxiety is high. It was lovely just having that girly time together.

Girls day out 😁

You know one of the shops had this real huge queue to get in we were in the back of the line waiting like everyone else when the staff came over and noticed Niki’s walking stick and let us go striaght to front and in the first time this ever happened to Niki. She was very surprised and thankful her hips were hurting a lot that day. That’s the one thing that as we move forward back to college she has to leave her stick at home or it causes her so many complications for the course she is doing . The other thing is how are these students ment to sort out placements at this time what are the safe gaurding for these students going into placements, when they are on health and social care will the placement insure they have PPE. I guess that’s something I will help her out on a list to ask her teachers when she returns. The enrolment went well she managed all of it herself she only asked us a few of the questions. They asked. She knew it already but wanted to check she did it right.

Al lot of teamwork today, I woke up early maybe 7am today I think my internal clock was screaming school run mode , hubby got up about 7.30 shortly followed by Jake .

By ten am I was already upstairs ironing board out getting everything up to date just so Thier is one less job for me when I have to work and do school runs. And although the mountain of clean clothes slowly went into neat little ironed piles ready to put away, it was quite relaxing had some calming music while I did it.

Hubby had the run of the kitchen and decided he would cook today something I was thankful for. Jake won’t eat the same dinner as us so had to grab him a steak from shops which he cooked himself while dad texted to tell him how.

We actually all day down together to eat today

Remember Dads all those jokes and thinks you do, when your kids get to teenage years you can’t out banter them especially when it’s like a tag team one meem after another, I was laughing so much seeing them so playful it made dinner go without all the usual anxiety of weather Jake will eat.

I was glad to have some photos with my own family for once, it doesn’t happen as often these days it’s more work that they happen . I value these rare moments, and caputuring them. I don’t want to forget all these good bits.

Jake hiding in the background , I would love at some point in time to have one photo that is standing equally next to each other one full of confidence from us all. At the same time that will be an amazing photo.
Someone sat with me while I ironed , my Elves promote helping mum and dad with chores then your free to have fun.😁♥️ They got to learn these skills one day
Roast and salads was so yummy
Even elves eat Thier fruit veg and salads

That was pretty much the whole day, was listening and watching some of the Micheal Jackson videos his showmanship was just something else. The creativity the moves the voice. You see writing helps already my heart rate is slowing the anxious feeling is leaving slowly.

Change of topic now last week with Hayley was back on to day shifts. Preparing for her semi return to what she used to do at day center. First it will start with out in community things in morning with day center staff , zoom meetings and afternoons at my house still continue. I am also taxi driver for Hayley taking her to and from her sessions in between school runs and getting back in time for zoom meetings, As her normal mini bus pick ups won’t be starting yet.

We still did our morning videos , and evening dance videos , which have been very important to us both, we also got creative with arts and learned a few basics about Russia, going to share some of my favorite photos of our last week just to finish about work.

Memory book , we added some more photo’s to her lock down book
Russia lesson
Dancing
Arts and crafts
Shopping
One of Hayley’s favorite zoom meetings Bingo
Coloring in
Sewing

We always find plenty To do she has had a lot more variety with me through lockdown but tried to keep it almost the same kind of lessons she does at day center. Just because it has helped he keep to a routine .

We are quite the double act together 🤣

So that’s just a bit of what we got up to last week I am going to end blog now with a little fun Emo antics he was accidently left at Tom’s house when I worked Thier Friday but Tom looks after him well, sending selfies of the two of them together.

Was watching spiderman together notice how Tom is gripping and hugging Emo his grip is so much stronger now.

Picking Emo up I knew thier might be some missing him going on so I am sharing Emo pics with Tom too. This boy loves his selfies.

Emo had to have a long relaxing soak when he came home even Elves need to self care they hug lots of people .
Uniforms ready shoes shiny good to go tomorrow
One clean Elf ready and smiling 🤣

Good night and much love too you all ♥️♥️

Emo the Emotional Elf

#caring #birthdays #dance #laughter #music #author #writer #emotions

Saturday morning the day after my shift got changed to working Saturday night . It worked better for me as well as them firstly because my hubby got held up in traffic on his way home so was going to be late getting in , he is the one that looks after kids if I am not working from home, this kind of meant Toms parents would have missed their timed meal allocation at the restaurant this restricted time slot doesn’t always work for families who use carers. but anyway it was Little Holly’s birthday on the Sunday and I was making her cake and memory book present. I enlisted Niki and hubby’s help, Hubby covered the board and cake stand read for me to do my fluffy bit. Niki help put photo’s into the book, we all listened to music and talked away while we were doing it. Jake hadn’t slept well the night before so he spent most of the day sleeping.

Running kids parties when I worked in wimpy at fourteen had it’s benefits made me love making birthday’s extra special I always enjoyed seeing the kids faces when they got cake and posed for videos and pictures with their friends and family. I think as we go through our lives those skills you think you will never use again will always stay with you. Niki was coming with me to work all masked up and hand wash ready you know as she is going to be moving on to health and social care any in job experience for her whether its with me or in placement is going to make her learning much easier.

We arrived just before 7 already to just have lots of fun and make the pre birthday evening fab for holly and Little Tom stayed up and joined in he was feeling so much better, bless him he had a burst ear drum and throat infection, he was also tested for covid which thankfully was negative.

Mum and dad went out for their meal, Ellie and tom helped me set up the birthday surprise while Niki and Dylan kept Holly occupied with fortnight.

Little tom was happy I came bringing his favorite chocolate buttons .

Little Tom loves being in the center of the family room with everyone , instead of his own wing of the house, his laughter proves that.

Squeals of delight and laughter commenced silly dances and music and present opening.

The birthday girl that loves football, and is an awesome little player with huge potential ahead.

Little Holly the published author, the girl who loves health and fitness and vegetables and fruit. highly intelligent sporty and a bit crazy like her aunty.

See big smiles and an elf that joined in the fun.

Presents open and loved memory book caused laughter and lots of chat.

Niki helping with Tom while I danced a little with Holly.

Ellie helped a lot too i am all about them spending quality time together as brothers and sisters too

After we partied for a little while Mum and dad came home and we lit the candles again so they could be part of the evening too.

Then it was time to sort little tom for sleep, i have not heard him scream with laughter like that maybe it was the choccy buttons or just that he had such a lovely time with us all together , and he likes to party and be silly too.

He didn’t sleep while I was in the room he just wanted to play, mum and dad were sorting out Holly’s presents to open in the morning Niki, Dylan, holly and Ellie were all talking and sitting together with tom settled it was time for me and Niki to leave and go home but it was such a lovely night shift.

Any way that’s it for tonight.

Accept a few author type things I have been working on

Good night all lots of love and wishes for you too all stay safe.