Emo the Emotional Elf #author #emotions #prompics #anxiety #autism #mentalhealth

Hi all good evening how are tonight?

Today’s been full on lots too do was going to do book upload today but my laptop decided everything needed updating which took hours , I wish they would make updates at faster speeds 😵

My hubby sorted it all out had fun popping out for finishing touches to Niki’s prom look, with her new bag a little silver sparkly one , oh and foundation , not that she really needs it a good eye liner she prefers the felt tip one easier for her to apply herself. A Matt lipstick and setting spray. Still it’s for special occasions so did run for the door at the price it cost, plus they gave us a free set of eye shadows. I am sure they will come in handy for her cosplay.

She looked but gourgous wouldn’t let me take photo’s before she can be very picky with how Thier taken.

She thinks my little phone camera is not good 😢

We got some at the end though she was a little anxious tonight , it’s the big goodbye , she said she cried after I left but didn’t call because she just wanted to do it herself 😀

It was different for her this year because she hasn’t been Thier for a while and when she was last Thier she worked as a teacher’s assistant so she felt more of an adult then student.

The thing is she knows these kids better then anyone she can tell you Thier likes, dislikes, what works what doesn’t . That is how she sees then really indepth knowledge.

To 2 photo’s of before

This head shot she took herself , for her it’s about certain angles of her hear or lighting she pays a lot of attention to things like that.

Showing of her sparkling Nails ❤️

She got an award most likely to be Disney Princess maybe last year with her giant prom dress and hair.

In one of the pics the one with the heart it’s from when she was a teaching assistant sitting with one of the student’s too protect the students identity we put a heart over face.

Now these are the photo I caught on my little phone, think she will be pleasantly surprised

Once in a while I get that one shot that enhances the beauty that’s all ready Thier this is my favorite one

Then Thiers the silly ones when your trying to get her to focus ❤️

She is so funny sometimes . 😂

That’s my girl always making me smile.

That’s all for tonight

Much love Faye XX💗

Was an emotional and happy evening for her.

Emo the Emotional Elf #author #emotions #promday #heattoheart #STCATHRINE’SHOSPICE

Hi all how are you all today?

Prom day 😀💝💝

Niki is super excited to show of her new style at the prom , she used to go round talking about Eggs with legs it was just something she found funny, this morning she said ” that’s me Egg with Legs “.

She looks amazing in her dress can’t wait to show you photo’s I love these special memories.

Niki has been through quite a few different school systems on her journey to now , first main stream which didn’t end to well , infact it ended in permanent exclution because they couldn’t meet her needs,

She then was transferred to alternate provisions where she did complete her GCSE’S at the time but was also attacked by another student leaving her with concussion that was in 2016 just before I wrote the book. She didn’t attend the prom with everyone else as the person who hurt her was allowed to go so instead we made our own one here for her and her dad took her out to a fancy restaurant , made it really special .

Here’s Some highlights from them,

While it didn’t take away the difficult days before it created new positive memories,

Next she when to a brand new school which with hard work from us us and Thier not giving up on her, or excluding her she learned to carry on an give education another try was difficult to start with and she retook her exams, passing her Her English exam and art award. She was invited to the school prom and it was perfect.

The full 60’s experience from start to finish,

Another year at this school focusing on enterprise skills how to write cv’s and apply for college and jobs. important skills to learn by this time she start experience of helping with other kids in the upper and lower schools on job training she started to really show what she was capable of.

She didn’t expect to be as upset as she was that this was the end of her journey with her little school family but I guess that was what she needed and what helped her thrive with that continued support in place some councilling from what she went through at other schools . They broke through the barriers she put up to protect herself.

Last year’s prom full on princess experience hair , nails , dress.

She was so stunning.

Niki went on with help of the specialist school to apply for a childcare and health and social care

At the local main stream college.

She has now completed and passed the first part of the course and we are awaiting her maths GCSE results she is also just finishing her first placement at a child care place.

So that leads us to today and Prom

again probally her last prom so important for her, she is going to do it Niki style. Will share photos later.

We are so proud of herb, her journey has been so full of ups and downs perfect moments and terrible ones but she always gets up and gives it her best shot.

So a big thank you for those who helped along the way.

Yes I have been one of those mums challenging you to put support in place pulling you up on things that haven’t worked, showing you what does, but look at the results I share.

It came from her she did this. She can and she will continue..

To surprise us with what she can do, yes she is still autistic and she still will have anxiety, tourettes and sometimes depression . But she is one hell of a young woman. I am blessed to have been given this chance to be her Mum.

St Cathrine’s Hospice

Our local charity that has supported many families over the years and been a fantastic continued support to our community,

They have this beautiful new Heart to Heart trail, not only does it bring families and communities together over something that is a vital service for families this beautiful trial they have done with the schools designers and sponsers, well done to all who put this together and adding a touch of 2019 style to it , by placing these hearts around all around local places where people can follow the trail and take photos it is fun for all the family and has more reach now with modern technology then ever. They rely on generous donations to continue to support families.

This is a charity close to our heart they have supported some of my family members through some tough times , it is one charity that has had generations of support from us, my Grandfather, aunt’s uncles cousins and myself, over the years. Keep up the fantastic support you provide .

I love the heart to heart trial here are the ones we found so far 😀

You can support by donations or getting there little merchandise .

Hayley and Niki got a hat, keyring, a squishy hear that’s great little stress reliever.

My Mum

She is still in hospital with a glimmer of hope she maybe home this weekend, still along way to go but she will be more relaxed at home then there. It has been a rough few weeks for her she has had enough of being in hospital now.

Goodbye for now

Update on prom this evening, so exciting 😀💗

Much love Faye xx

Emo The Emotional Elf #author #emotions #anxiety #autism #mentalhealth #haircut #princesstrust

Hi all how are you today?

Jake

I got my car back, was quick really, good job to as the taxi was late today and we only just managed to get Jake to school with 2 minutes to spare.

While we waited out side he was anxious and pacing asking the time and for me too phone them. “I can’t be late Mum or I will get a detention”

A sudden change to his morning routine and although he coped it still caused him anxiety, in the mornings when we get to school he first goes to the social communications unit, this gives him time to get himself set up for a day of learning before going over to the mainstream school.

It has been this way since he started senior school to make transitions easier for him. Today he just had to go straight into mainstream. I told him it would happen before we got there.

He says if he is late he wants to go to scu because he doesn’t like walking into a class when everyone else is already there because people stare and it’s awkward, he doesn’t like to be stared at.

A little insight into how he thinks, is a great thing. Another thing he said tonight is people are treating him better at school I asked him if he thought that was because he was beguining to talk to more people and he said no it’s because I am learning to talk like them, and they don’t treat him like the autistic kid at the moment. I am not sure I like the fact he has to be like someone else other then himself ‘masking’ maybe.

He has a great personality funny smart caring and kind I wouldn’t want to see the qualities about him go.

Niki

A big day for Niki she did it the hair shave 19-22 inches of hair cut off for

Princess trust wigs for kids she made a little sign to show hair dressers how she wanted them to tie her hair first, and exactly what grade she wanted it.

This girl will always speak up for herself even with me, that’s an important part of her growing her own independance, choise and style , she is a very headstrong girl.

I tried to get her to phone and ask if they could fit her in but she couldn’t do it today so we just drove down to see if we could get an appointment.

I thought I would get emotional as I love her hair a lot my favorite time was talking together while doing her hair, but she let me wash and dry it before we went the best 20 minutes I took a little extra time to just savour the moment.

The before pictures

The team were awsome and excited as Niki to do this I think a first for them.

She coped so well with the cut

Putting it in bunches before the first cut. 😵😱🤢no turning back she talked with staff all the way through.

Look at that smile she has , she is so happy with it.

Three long bunches.

My face as I am holding it in bags ready to send 😂😂

She packages it as per instructions wrote the envelope.

If any one else is thinking of having a big change this is a great place to send it, I am happy other little kids will be able to appreciate it.

Jake and dad found it a little difficult to accept. Here is Jake’s reaction

Different perspectives in one house hold. They will co.e round to it after a few days, Jake did want her too put a wig on to go up the shops together but she said no and wore it with pride.

She kept laughing when she felt the air on her scalp she though it felt weird.❤️ The adrenaline form having done it made her little heart pump hard for ages after.

She has prom Thursday last year we did the full princess dress hair and nails this year, super cool woman confident, sassy, edgy.

It was such a beautiful experience I got caught up in all the excitement of it all and am glad she got me to take her , not my little girl any more she hasn’t been for a while now. But she is still my Niki.😀 Oh goodness I have grown up kids, it the last few years flashing past. I captured every moment of it. When she is a Mum she will look back at her kids and see things from a mother’s perspective too.

I am proud she is brave.

Here is her video of hair cut all the editing she did herself, she speeded up some of it so it wasn’t to long and slowed down other parts, but the one thing I asked her to keep in it is her laugh it is so good to here that.

We would love to share this moment with you all.

Hope you all have a great evening.

Much love Faye xx

Emo the Emotional Elf , #author #Emotions #Anxiety #autism #mentalhealth

Hi all how are you tonight ?

Jake handle the change well this morning , we got to school by taxi with plenty of time to spare, you see every morning we have a set routine. Getting up, eating, breakfast, teeth and car , who sits in the front , what music is on.

Many different things to make the school transition calm and relaxed.

That is what helps my kids cope with school days better at the moment .

It starts them off well for Thier learning,

After Jake it was a walk to town and bus home to sort car out, the journey was pretty much the same timing given I always pop somewhere my dad’s or shops before coming home.

By the time I got home my hubby had already phone the garage and booked it in, I just had to call the tow truck to take it Thier , it was unfortunately as suspected slave cylinder snapped and leaked on clutch , so new clutch.

Because my life is super busy I never got round to the checks after it was fitted last year so warranty is void.

Very costly mistake on my part this time though I will make sure I make the time . Don’t want to be here in a year with the same issue again.

These things not easy when your a carer.i am lucky my hubby can do most of the the work on car we just use garages for the big jobs.

Limited budgets, Still the positive Is don’t have to borrow money this time I have emergency fund.

I should get car back tomorrow morning, till then another taxi it is the walk from our house is just too far for Jake.

Bless him he has a Migriane tonight.

Once Car back we will get all other yearly things done before Mot at the end of the month, all I want now is to have this car last till my loans are paid off in 2022, then it will be a new car. 🤞

My back is really sore tonight the too has started to peel the bottom is still red and sore , everything rubs or sticks to it, again my own fault,

Should settle soon.

Tomorrow a brand new day I am looking forward to what it brings.

Have a beautiful day

Much love Faye XX😀

Our Amy’s rose bush has a beautiful Rose today