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Today has been for relaxing , just enjoying my hubby’s hard work

Work

what can I say both were amazing shifts we had so much fun.

Me and Hayley before she went home Saturday

My little Tommy and Holly

It was going to be just Tom coming on Saturday but about an hour before I got this cool from little Holly, please can i come too i want to have some crazy fun with you, is that ok how can you say no to that she sounded so very excited at the thought of coming too. she likes my style fun, fun, oh and more Fun. This week I had them at my house Niki and Jake wanted to spend time with them too.

They arrived just before five, I was just cooking my hubby and myself our stake dinner Niki and Jake had already eaten theirs. Tom already fed and in his Pj’s , Holly wanting some

Dinner she loves her salade and veg and fruit , tom sat with Niki in the front room while I finished eating

NIki had tom sitting up next to her in the middle pic, they get on so well.

After time for Fun,Tom was pretending to hide from me behind the pillow.

Tom uses his eyes to communicate a lot they are always so bright and expressive .

Next I asked them who wanted to go to park TOM put his had up and squealed with delight , Holly was jumping up and down saying me and Jake his shoes were on before I could say lets go.

Because Tom is wheel chair bound it is hard to find places so he can join in with the other kids, it isn’t nice for him to sit and watch everyone have fun, that’s the good thing about where I live the park has been adapted for wheel chairs users which I am thankful for. I will share a video of why further in the post, but for now here is our little park trip in photo’s

we were going to use the wheel chair access swing but it was locked not sure where you are supposed to get a key from to make it truly accessable so we had to make do with the lay down swing for Tom he couldn’t go on it for long though even with a blanket a bit hard for his back. but still we were their , Tom is growing so tall now won’t be able to lift without hoists soon

He has shot up in height now, maybe because he is actually 10 years old now. I started working with him when he was 2 eight years have gone by so quickly.

He enjoyed it

AS you can see from the pictures above they have a wheel chair access roundabout too. I will upload the video to my media wont let me add it here.

Now how to get kids that are having fun out of the park with no melt downs Trip to the SWEETIE SHOP, on the way the floor became lava again as it normally does when i have the kids , a fun way to make sure they don’t go to far ahead so you can catch up to them.

They stayed their for a minute till me and Tom caught up to them

WE arrived at the shops but before we even got near the sweetie shop the kids spotted the cake’s in the window of the Local cake box shop sweeties forgotten for a moment.

Holly enthusiastically jumping up and down at the very thought of the fruit on top of the cake she wasn’t bothered about the cake just the fruit, Tom on the other hand focused solely on the CHOCOLATE Sunday cake. Jake is to much of a selective eater to even consider wanting one the guy behind the counter exciting them more by blowing up ballons .

May I say what a very nice gentleman he was insisted the cakes were on them and wouldn’t let me pay, So 2 balloons and 2 cakes made their way home with the kids. I will say this though a big thanks too cake box you made their little day, your act of kindness didn’t go unnoticed by the kids

They will forever remember it and wanted to do something nice themselves so the money they didn’t take the kids put in the charity box of the lady dressed as a penguin in our local co-op shop who was collecting money for Alzheimer’s charity. the walk home was pretty quick they wanted to tuck into the cakes.

Holly gave Niki the cake minus the cream and fruit top.

Jake and holly playing in the garden together while i gave Tom his Medicines and changed him.

Jake teaching Holly how to spin a bo staff

NIki helped to bath, Holly while I sorted Tom out for bed, after Holly came to join us for a short movie before they both fell asleep.

Movie time, Jake and Niki busy doing thier own thing

They slept till about 8 Am. then it was Tom up first dressed and Medicines, Milkshake and he choose porridge for Breakfast he ate pretty well, although he does have a peg in his tummy for food and fluids and for when he doesn’t want to eat we can top up his special milk shake. he did also need his inhaler a little wheezy when he wakes up helps him bring up the stuff off his chest so eating is easier for him.

Holly and my hubby wanted bacon sandwich, for their breakfast, Niki and Jake were sleeping in like most teens on a weekend. no seizures from Tom so that was good. after all the breakfast stuff was cleared Holly my hubby Tom and me sat in the Garden for my morning coffee , they were so content.

He was happy and relaxed sitting out side

just before his mum and dad came too pick them up tom was weight training using the balloons he got the day before his grip is getting so strong now he has a lot more control of his arms now then he used to have, before his head turned in the opposite direction to the arm he wanted to use, their is a multiple team of us fab carers school workers parents and grandparents focused on helping TOM, he is a special young boy.

TOMS PARTY TRICK BALANCING SPOON ON HIS NOSE

Tom and holly left My hubby got on with the Garden me Nik and Jake worked together on his school cover a folder for maths home work, Jake wanted to do a sea theme as he has made a change to what he wants to be from a marine biologist to a marine rescue worker we spent the best part of the day collecting and working together he was saying how much it reminded him of the projects we worked on together before it made him happy Niki helped to.

They did a pretty awesome Job great team work

My hubby finished the front Garden replacing the dead flowers with fresh ones boy it looks and smells lovely as you walk up the path now so welcoming.

Just have to grow a little now

I forgot to say the elves joined in again both Tom and holly are fond of them

Look at TOMS grip His holding EMO tight

Talking about Emo, lets talk about the book

‘Emo the Emotional Elf’

Friday I got the email the proof copies to be approved before it goes back to the printer , I checked and double checked , then got my hubby to check too

About 30 minutes later I got an email saying HAPPY BOOK BIRTHDAY .

SO happy it is all back to where it is supposed to be only this time with an e-book version too. So the official release date is 8 th of August just please remember if your getting it , the ISBN numbers are all changed, I am really hoping this time it gets the chance to be read and reviewed, and read by families. while thier are many autistic families out thier this is purely just our families stories everyone has different perspectives and feelings depending on so many different things. It helps to show hope and care and love.

Much love Faye xx

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Hi all how are you tonight?

Birthday celebrations

Its been a great day today, celebrating Josh’s birthday with him started with Jake waking me up at 6.30 good job he did he was looking for his school clothes I left them drying on the chair over night, had dash down stairs and give them an iron, we have had such a busy but relaxing weekend together, I waited till my dad went home to put washing on. Never good to have it going when your intertaining 😬

But at least it was dry, after a debate with Jake over weather he wanted it ironed or not, Thier is no way he is going to school untidy and rumpled

He wasn’t to pleased it wasn’t ready, end of term tiredness plus he isn’t feeling good.

Still he soon cheered up and joined in the present opening part of his brothers birthday, even Niki got up and came down for a short while.

25 today where has the time gone, I think once they make the journey to uni and work every time they come home, they are that much older and wiser.

These last six years seem to have flown by, maybe that’s because alot of those years were full of diagnosis for Niki and Jake and hospitals, trying to get them help.

No cake to blow out the candle this morning we already had it yesterday. Jake, loved it, Niki ate her fair share too not much left for the Birthday Boy.

What’s most important Family

We manage to get some great photo’s of us all

Jake had to be added after as he was at school. Niki shot off back to her room to sleep some more no college now so catching up on some much needed sleep.

Spending quality time together, having fun.

I am glad to the presents we got will be of benefit to Josh so very hard to choose as our kids get older . This year he invested in a beautiful camera, so we choose ones they can help with that.

Josh has always been super creative, and this i know will give him something out side of his day job to do a new hobby , or maybe a sideline thing with creativity.

There has to be a superman present in there from someone

His face lol

This time from Niki and Jake

Siblings

Through life what ever accomplishments or difficulties i know the bond between these three will always be strong, thier love for each other unbreakable, yes some times they disagree or annoy each other but that is a perfectly natural part of a sibling bond. Niki and Jake on occasion over the past have struggled a little but Josh he is thier big brother he brings the fun the guidance and the mentor to thier lives.

For the evening of Josh’s birthday he took them both to the cinema spending some time alone as brother’s and sister , they had an awesome when i picked them up it was funny to see that spark of rivalry for the front seat of the car, we developed a system of oldest first then when they get out the next one gets the spot, it worked to not have melt downs in the car on school runs, so they dashed from the cinema Jake jumping in the front seat and as Josh got him out Niki jumped in put her seat belt on and locked the door, poor Josh had to squeeze his self into the back. You really had to be there in person to see the funny display of what i am sure most siblings are like. Nostalgic but in a good way, not so good when they were younger though used to drive me nuts. Josh had one more sleep at home before leaving the next evening to return to his home and work, Jake having to go to school the next day was a bit hard for him, while he was there though i spent some quality time with Josh and Niki, we went for a walk to local town before a trip to the bowling alley. you know sometimes when you say to your older kids next time you come we will find time to do this, your left with incredible guilt that you let them down when it doesn’t happen for some reason or other. This time though i made it happen.

NIki one which she was really happy with, my hubby would of come as well but was still working on the garden, still we all spent time together when Jake finished school, all squeezing in our front room together for the last few moments together till next time. It is difficult when Josh has to go again but it is becoming less harder for us all to say goodbye, and anyway it isn’t for long we will soon be spending time together again.

last few moments

Back to work – School – Book

With Jake at school , my hubby and i worked together on the book and adding data for its release again on the 5 of august 2019 not only with the paper back version but also the newly converted e-book format as well were leading into a new place with the book opening up more channels to get the book out thier to as many families as we can. whilst also building a more solid and and secure place for our own family and its future is taking the difficult and making it count.

Work Niki joined into Hayley loves it but so does Niki.

First hayley did one of her most favourite hobbies, jigsaws she loves them it is always amazing to watch her do them. they can be simple or really complicated ones she will spend hours sometimes on them.

After it was getting out in the fresh air for a long walk, great exercise for us all, plus we are still following and finding the hearts on the map for the heart to heart St Catherine’s challenge.

Emo came along for some moral support and encouragement oh and maybe a little mischief along the way.

Niki wore her cosplay outfit she loves cosplay and wanted to get some fantastic photos, she was the director bossing me around thats Niki

she got the perfect background and pose, I just took the shot
plus i wasn’t aloud to use my phone had to be hers camera is better

I must admit she understands photography better than me I just capture photo’s when something inspires me, before the moment leaves.

we got about an hour and a half of walking in but had to rest a few times as it was hard going for Hayley and Niki we also had to stop for the perfect Tik Tok settings too.

The beauty of nature

Here are a few extra shots we captured along the way plus the bumble bee up close, unfortunately nature sometimes expires naturally, but having that moment to get up close to see the detail of one of natures beautiful creations was to hard to resist not taking some pictures.

Niki capturing her own photo’s , her perspective.

The rest of our trip out in pictures

Emo up to mischief

He Is all Emotional and tired out from the long couple of days, But he is happy

Finally to finish off today slightly longer blog, as I kept falling asleep while writing it over the last couple of days not just Emo and the kids that are tired Mum and dad are too.

Our Jake a celebration of his achievements at school.

Jake come bounding out of school yesterday with a hand full of certificates, 5 in total he was so proud of himself.

It is lovely to see hard work get positively rewarded for our kids on the spectrum over the years so much focus has gone into the behaviour side of being autistic and the issues that has brought as far as schooling goes, getting the Ehcp plans were a nightmare, up dating and maintaining is always work in progress , but from Jake’s perspective accepting support and help is hard, how others treat kids that need help is not always good especially in peer groups.

So first I will show you from his perspective what made him feel good and proud. he also went up on stage to collect them very difficult for him, but he did it.

Now the next one all I can do is tell you what Jake said and how he felt about this, to us adults we are just proud of every little step but to a child who is only now accepting his diagnosis, and making friends with his peers by being more open to talking to others without the old fears of previous years of memories of bullying and the trauma from that.

he got this award year 9 student of the year for the Linc. he is very particular about wording he is a base student not linc student how can I get a certificate from linc if I dont go there. this is part of him being autistic that the school don’t seem to understand sometimes, it is in the details.

To him getting up on stage is hard enough getting up on the stage to collect an award because you get help, and hearing others laugh at this was for him a little hard too take the first thing he said is I love the other awards but this one feels like I am getting an award for being disabled , he felt embarrassed because everyone laughed infact if he could he would pretend he didn’t get it.

he has now started to build better understanding of friendships but also understands when others laugh it’s at him not with him.

if i have not been quick answering messages over the last week it is because I turned off notifications because I get distracted talking to people and just wanted to focus and concentrate on my kids, book and work.

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Hi all How has your day been today?

Another amazing day here,

Big advice Wrap presents before hiding them

Yes thats my only downfall i am completely forgetful sometimes, I hid the presents in the car what i didn’t expect was Josh wanting to come to shops with me this morning .

what did he do the ever helpful Josh lifted the heavy bags of shopping to put in the boot of the car for me i was standing there next to him I completely forgot they were in there, still he only glimpsed one and pretended he didn’t see it.

The slightly smiley face tells me i may have made the right gift choise on one of them.

I forgot the cake

Trying to get him to allow me to buy him a birthday cake was a pain. he did let me get him a small one in the end chocolate flavour so little Jake would eat a piece too.

Guests

Today Hayley and Dad came to dinner with us and we celebrated Josh’s birthday early, my husband cooked a beautiful roast, while helped him with the cleaning and preparation playing host and getting drinks for every one.

Granddad, Josh and Hayley had sports on thier minds specifically the Grand Prix the cheering that came from the other room especially from Hayley was great to here Niki and Jake joining in from time to time, but also relaxed enough to do thier own little routines and things. Was such a peaceful day.

Dinner was a success plates were emptied even Niki and Jake’s and thier own interpretations of Sunday dinner.

They went back to watching sports, this time Cricket, i went int they were cheering and sitting on the edge of thier seats. Niki and Jake disappearing into thier own little oasis Their rooms. my hubby disappearing for a tiny food induced Nap. while i prepared the cake and desserts.

Puddings

Apple Pie, Bread pudding, custard and cream lots to choose from

Eyes bigger then your belly, so full tonight

Still a fantastic day was had by all , Granddad and hayley going home via the pub thier is probably a band Hayley wanted to see .

I will say goodnight for now just the table to set with presents and then a good night sleep, early start tomorrow so Jake can see his brother open his present’s before he goes to school.

much love Faye xx

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Hi all how are you today?

Where do I start today’s blog?

It has been a few 1st Edition copies out Thier,If you would like a copy be sure to visit Amazon it has a slight reduction of price at the moment. Especially the UK site.

Here is the link 😀❤️

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Emo-Emotional-Elf-Faye-Farmer/dp/1912333562/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?keywords=emo+the+emotional+elf&qid=1563054954&s=gateway&sprefix=emo+the+em&sr=8-1

We have the expected release date for the release of the copy with my own publisher name.

5th August 2019

A couple of edits were made to the book and it will look exactly the same as the book as it was first published.

So exciting it was this time last year the book started showing up with its online presence.

For authors an exciting time, this stage of the process should take about 14 days, that’s why we put the date August the 5th 2019, just to cover us for any last minute hold ups.We really pinpointed all the meta data into the uploading process, the thing is now I have actually been to a few book signings and met other authors it really has been Thier input and support and value, the lovely Katherine and Sue made me see the target audience more clearly, but also my hubby did most of the adjustments that were needed and computer things , I am still learning the basics in most of these. He has also helped around the house, done the garden and on many occasions cooked my dinner.I will say though when the book is live again the ISBN numbers will change,

Just a few more things to do on Title editor and up load the cover 😀It took a while but I am ok with that.

But today this is what made me Happy.

Work

As you can see it was alot of fun ❤️Ellie is the birthday Girl 12 today if anyone deserves a special day.

In my break I picked up my oldest son from train station so good to see him.Jake and Niki were happy to see him.

My boys , I see Jake in this photo and just how tall he is getting.These guys have been together all day.

Joshua chased his brother, so sweet together.

Niki talking to , her Tom

And showing off her in Disney princess.

I popped out got all Josh’s presents ready for his birthday Monday.The rest of the day we have been relaxing listening to the blues while deweeding the garden.We also got to eat in our newly refreshed eating area

This is how our weekend has gone so far😀

Have a beautiful night

much love Faye xx