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AS the week is coming to an End and the First week of full school is now over, I can sit back and think just how far my children have thrived this last year

Niki

Wow she has rocked this last year shown people just how much thier judgments isn’t going to hold her back from her passion with working with children. Her dedication to her own education her want to learn everything that will make her the best child care worker despite being autistic despite her anxiety or Tourettes , she has had to learn for herself without pressure what she needs to do to make it happen and every day she continues to to prove others were wrong. The biggest change for her came when others change the way they supported her, when they understood she wasn’t a bad child just a child that needed to believe in herself and her own abilities.

I get the most beautiful texts when she completes her work or receives a certificate, and recently her first diplomas in health and social care and early years. She shared it with me just like she shares her anxiety and many other things with me I give her a safe place to let it out all the emotions she has to hold in to be able to do this work. I give her a non judgemental ear and a voice of reason when she needs it.

Very Recently she has been doing the same with my hubby

The reason I have always known she is great at this is because she has a compassionate heart, a love of helping other’s , and she will make a fantastic member of the team.

She sees things differently and maybe she will be able to help identify undiagnosed children when she does her placements so support can be put in place for that child before they have to go through half of what she has had to endure to be educated and become an autistic adult that is independent enough to work get married and have a family of her own one day, it is certainly something she is working at achieving. not because it is expected of her but because it is what she wants.

The final reason is that NT people who work with our kids or even diagnose them look from an outside in perspective what they see in body language how they show thier emotions how they deal with everyday things.

An autistic person or other special needs kids see it from the inside out funny way of putting it but they feel things and no what helps and what doesn’t, what helps or hinders.

Before Niki even began this course when she was in mainstream secondary school, she would come and help when I worked I never not even once had to stop her from helping she amazed me the kids loved her.

She is not afraid to get down on the Childs level and play, she thinks outside the box if something isn’t working she finds another way to communicate

So the beginning of her year 2 course and she has already phoned and set up her new work placement she has been busy working out how she is going to do the 500 hours placement with her college course work, she completed her first homework over 1000 words. she is so dedicated.

Jake

Jake has also had a good week back, he has told me he had some panicky moments and anxiety but now he knows when to take him self out of the class room and go to the support when he needs to, I chased up his EHCP date the other day as I couldn’t remember where I put the letter thankfully we have an till October. part of having things run smoothly at school and to have support thier when he needs it , is relaying when Jake mentions he has an issue at school and relays it to me it helps the teachers to know where he may need a little more support or not. But also the importance of letting support know if thier is anything that may affect his behavior , I passed on that his uncle had passed and Nan had been ill during the holiday’s. these things can make him a little more anxious the normal, he was quite quite this holiday which is understandable .

If Schools don’t know they cant help.

Emo and the Elves

Now to the inspiring bit and what I love about this time of year first Halloween then my favorite time CHRISTMAS.

A time i find the most inspiring seeing the glow on kids faces the laughter the joy of doing things with thier loved ones, never easy if your autistic but for us it has always been very creative we always go loud and proud, Halloween has seen this massive increase of repeat visitors knocking on our door our kids joining in now and no anxiety of it, they are happy giving others things , they are happy joining in.

Then thier is Christmas i was inspired enough to write a children’s book with a difference , a Christmas book filled with special intrests fun,love, family.

Yes it is only September now but having this little story book now is really the time to start to market it, what better way then to use what helped our family Elves.

I was at the shops picking some storage boxes to organize the kids important paperwork in when I came a cross the first Christmas stock I have seen this year, and like i brought Emo on an Impulse i saw another elf and my mind was running away with it self picturing what mischief this new Elf can get up to. It is huge the biggest yet I may need a new house soon I also thought it would be a great investment for book events the Elf that loves a cuddle.

He even teaches independent living skills , Try putting him in the front of the car when you pick your kids up from school, they suddenly want to move out.

Or put put them in your daughter’s chair where no-one is allowed to sit EVER even Elves that make you laugh.

Hopefully I can upload the video’s to media later because it was very funny. Thier faces.

Hayley loved him and wants one she was so excited she grabbed him for a big hug, and left a video message for Mum saying I want one lol, cant wait to show him to Tom and the girls when I have them next week.

So before I sign off for the night i will leave you with the first bit of mischief this elf got up to while kids were at school.

This story is a story about Daddy Elf .

A big day today dad is working at home and has been given the task of kid watching because mum is sorting out issues with schools, one school exclusion one school refusal, so kids are all off. dad starts up his computer ready to get on with his work his on a deadline,

he makes himself a coffee settles down to get work done before the kids come down for thier breakfast the boss phones some big issue , he talks to his boss for a minute gets on the phone to sort it out with the Tec team, just as he puts the phone down it rings again some alarm has gone off at the office he loads up the data on his screen and pics up the phone to call them to check it out, thier is banging and shouting from upstairs “he is in my room”, “she took my stuff” , yep the kids are awake he calls them down for breakfast thier still arguing he chooses something they can watch while they eat breakfast, oh boy he better get this one the phone rings again , he answers it while watching that the kids are still eating, goodness he is thinking, his boss calls again the problem is sorted but can he take a look at this new project and give his opinion, he goes back to his laptop sits down to check it out.

he is on the phone and looking at the work project, the kids are asking him one question after another dad ” where is mum” ” dad when she coming home” he tells his boss to “hang on a minute” Tells his kids “dad’s on the phone” he starts talking to the boss again ” Dad i am Still hungry” “Dad where is mum”.Dad tells his boss he will have too call him back he takes the kids tells them to do any home work they may have, goes back to his computer, the kids are auguring over who’s rubber it is he better get back in thier and sort this quick, the phone rings it is mum the meetings are done but the car has broken down she is going to be a while till someone comes and helps.

he tells them to stop fighting and get thier homework done. the boss calls back thier is another issue he talks it through with his boss. puts phone down goodness he is feeling so stressed right now.

Then his mind switches the kids are still messing around he isn’t going to get his work done right now. What should he do before things turn into everyone upset,? sort the children first . he gets them to put away thier homework he switches his computer off, sends his boss a message he has to sort something out here and he will phone back once he is done.

He calls the children who have run off to thier bedrooms to come down they appear still stressed and anxious ” whens is mum back “? he explains about the car braking down the kids state again !!

He grabs a book and gathers them close and reads to them they are looking up at him while he reads with such enthusiasm, they are calm they snuggle closer as dad continues to read that is how Mum found them when she got back.

All on the settee relaxed, she knew he could cope with what she has dealt with mostly by herself while he worked..

He had a new found respect for his wife and just how much it took to do this daily.

Mum took over with the kids while he got back on with his work, after a while he said you sit down, I will cook he proceeded to took his wife dinner and the children the foods they will actually eat, his wife sweetly smiled up at him and said thanks.

Thier are many ways of looking at a story many perspectives if you don’t try to see it from someone else’s you never know how different things can be or wether that one tiny thing will have a lasting impact.

Good night all have a beautiful weekend much love Faye xx